Special Moments

One marriage counselor once said, if ever there is a time that you feel you really love your spouse it should be now and not on the wedding day or during the honeymoon. Love should grow on a daily basis no matter what. Probably what makes love shrink is because we do not take time to work on our relationships. Love needs tending and nurturing in order to flourish.

I would like to propose what I call having ‘special moments’ with your spouse as a tool to nurture the relationship. ‘Special moments’ is when you see every interaction you have with your spouse as a special moment. Remember those courting days when you used to dress up for a date, when you would mind the way you talk in your fiancés presence, when you would want to make sure everything is in order – your hair is neat, the list goes on. We ought to continue to do this as it makes us always conscious that we are dealing with a special person in our lives. Dinner time at home; it does not have to be routine and boring. Come up with activities to do together, games to play, different ways to spend the evenings. Your life does not have to be boring or to be hyper active but home should be a haven of rest. Speak gracefully to your spouse; communicate your love to him. Just enjoy his company.

There are times when you won’t receive the same attention from your husband; God says come unto me all who labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest. Talk to God in prayer your deepest feelings and He will take care of your concerns. It is very true that we can’t change our spouses but God can so lean on Him. On the other hand, love awakens love. If you continue to show love to your spouse, the Lord willing, He will soon be reciprocating. Even if he doesn’t, show him love anyways. He is your husband after all.

Creating special moments whenever you are with your spouse does not have to be expensive. The simple things of keeping a smile on your face, minding your language and selection of words, being a great company and just being unselfish will do just fine.

Maybe you have been taking things for granted so much that your love shrunk; do not despair for there is still hope. Pray to God and He will set you free for He delights in doing good for us. The Bible says in Proverbs 3:5,6 “Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Take courage and answer to the call of God.

Start today, and make those ‘special moments’ for and with your spouse and be able to say, “I’ve never love him better than today.”